Recently, at one of my favorite clubs to play I had the fight or flight response when I got on stage. My heart started throbbing in my chest, my throat got tight, and I felt like I had to pee. I was looking forward to being back home in NYC, and playing in front of people I know and love. I was bummed that the next fifty minutes might turn out so well. Performing is my favorite thing to do when I’m doing it well, and the opposite when I’m dying a slow death out there.

Then the phrase a friend once shared with me, and I have since shared with every one of my students who experiences stage fright, came to me – You’re not nervous, you’re excited to play. And I said, “Apparently, I’m very excited to see you guys. I’m really glad you’re here.”

Another technique I teach came into my head and I started to visualize a tiny sun in the middle of my chest. I let the sun grow until it surrounded my body, then until it filled the room. I could open my eyes, and see everyone in the room in my sun. This gave me focus.

After the first song, I took my time while I tuned the guitar and I held my breath, counting slowly backwards from ten in my mind, twice. This stilled my diaphragm and stopped my voice from shaking. Learning to control the diaphragm is not only the most important component of learning to sing well and support the voice, it is your first defense against stagefright. If the diaphragm is trembling, you will feel nervous. If you can still it, you will feel focussed – my concentration grew.

I was able to think through the story of the next song, hear the sounds of the piano, and then like magic, I felt like I was swimming, instead of sinking. I became so at home on stage that when I sang the wrong words to my song “This Can’t Be My Life,” it became the part of the show everyone felt the most connected to. There are no mistakes in a live show – only improvisation.

What causes stage fright? For me, it isn’t that I’m afraid of being judged, laughed at or forgetting the words. It is a physical response that seems to happen at random. Sometimes when the stakes seem high, sometimes when there are no stakes at all. It’s cellular; I feel like I’m going to get eaten. My mind goes, “Dance, Monkey, dance or you’re going to die.” It could happen anytime, unpredictably, but I love to play, so I risk it.

This is a list of techniques that I use in when I have stage fright. (Sometimes just one does the job):

I tell myself I’m not nervous; I’m excited.

I remember, no matter what, I’ll be able to sleep in my bed later.

I hold my breath. This works better than deep breathing, because it stills the diaphragm. Don’t breathe in and blow out hard. As in the support techniques of The Singingbelt System – expand, hold, release gently.

I put myself in a place that feels big and beautiful: the top of a mountain, the ocean, or the woods. I create the whole space in my imagination and bring everyone into it. (Practice this often before you go to sleep at night, so you become experienced at filling in all the details of your space with your imagination.)

I build a tiny sun.

I think through the thoughts of the song as if they are occurring to me for the first time. I follow the story.

I imagine the faces of particular people and sometimes pets that ease my mind, and place them in various places in the room.

I listen to the music. If I’m fortunate enough to be playing with others, I listen to them playing.

I have an inner mantra which is “every note I sing is beautiful,” instead of “I’m sucking.”

I am grateful to people for listening.

I talk as if I were speaking to one friend. I sing as if I were singing to one person.

Ruth Gerson

Inventor of The Singing Belt System

Ruth GersonOne of the top vocal coaches in NYC for many years, Ruth Gerson has taught voice, songwriting and performance at Princeton University. She currently runs San Francisco Vocal Coaching and also teaches at Blue Bear School of Music and The Music Center in San Francisco. As an independent artist, Gerson has appeared on “Late Night with Conan O’Brien,” “The Late, Late Show with Craig Ferguson,” the entertainment news show “Extra,” PBS, Showtime, HBO and Lifetime television. She has performed at the Newport Folk Festival, New Orleans Jazz & Heritage, High Sierra Music Fests and many more. Her career has included vocals on many popular jingles, as well as back-up vocals/keyboards for Gloria Gaynor. Her latest album Deceived is produced by five time Grammy winner, Rick Chertoff and William Wittman. Gerson has opened for Dave Matthews, Lisa Loeb, The Indigo Girls and Steven Wright. Gerson moved to the Bay Area in August of 2009 and has rapidly become one of the most in-demand vocal coaches in San Francisco and on the Peninsula.

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